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Perfect! [Aug. 31st, 2005|04:14 pm]
Poly Bitchings
I have never seen something so perfect. Here I am bitchin & moanin about my Poly life, and lo and behold what do I find???

Here is a little intro and then on to my bitch of the day

Poly for 7 years in a FFM triad. Although we have been more of a V for a couple of years now. I am the "other" woman attached to an already married couple.

Our relationship has been extremely rocky as of late. I am not getting along with my g/f AT ALL. I can't even call her my friend right now. Even though my relationship with the husband is strong, even that has been suffering from it too.

We always argue about money & general housekeeping rules. I am at my wits end. Any suggestions on how to set up some our finances 3 ways besides by thirds? I work 2 jobs, go to school and make the least amount of money in the house but pay almost 70% of the mortgage along with my own expenses related to personal debt (car, credit cards, gym etc.). Literally every penny is accounted for in my budget but yet I am always being chastised for not contributing to extracirricular activites.

I have a low tolerance for messes, however I am the first person to leave for work and the last person to arrive home for the day. Am I being unreasonable for assuming that someone else is going to cook & clean by the time I roll in at 7pm? On the weekends I am always cooking & cleaning up, seems fair to me.

Someone please either validate my feelings or tell me to shut the hell up. I am just frustrated. Help!

[User Picture]From: mskylierocks
2005-09-01 12:51 am (UTC)
How frustrating! Don't you think you could ask them for another arrangement (esp. in regards to the dishes)? Do you ever talk it out and talk about taking turns or making a schedule? Also, is it your house? How did you get stuck with so much of the mortage? (Just curious).
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From: bitchin_moanin
2005-09-01 12:55 am (UTC)
Yes we have had the conversation and I have asked for assistance but never receive it. But I think a total rearrangement of the bill situation is in order.

It was supposed to be "our" house, but they have horrible credit and I only qualified. It was a deal we couldn't pass up.

As far as the chores, nothing has ever been formally arranged. Just common courtesy, if you make a mess clean it up. But that isn't working either.

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