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Oh thank gawd! [Dec. 29th, 2006|07:38 am]
Poly Bitchings
[Current Location |Portland, OR]
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This is just the community I need at the moment because I definitely have a poly rant!

Here is my back story:
I have been poly for almost ten years. Four years ago, I met my current primary M. Since that time I have gone out on a few sparse dates, but none have lead to anything more than flirting and maybe mild foreplay. The reason: I have become extremely picky. Why? First and foremost, I have very precious little free time due to working full-time and attending first under-grad and now grad school; and second, after much personal and self-esteem work I realized that just because I'm poly, for me, doesn't mean I need to sleep with everyone who shows an interest in me.

Here is my bitch:
I am sick of people questioning whether I am still poly when I don't hook up with them. Hello! If I don't that means that I'm not interested in YOU! Time for you to have a reality check and stop questioning my polyness. I would still very much like to develop various types of relationships outside of my primary relationship if they present themselves, however I have yet to make that connection with anyone in the last several years. Like I said, I'm very picky and most of the people I've been associated with over the last four years have been interconnected between my partner and I. Personally I'm done with the whole incestuous nature of mutual friends.


[User Picture]From: cifier77
2007-02-08 08:04 pm (UTC)

RE:Oh thank gawd!

Preach on Decon!!!

Ah men, brother!!

Someone queue the choir, they are on in five!!!

I am picky as well, probably not as picky as you are. But I believe you are touching on a beautiful truth about being poly.

"Just because I can love multiple partners deeply does not mean I am amorally promiscuous. And even if that were the case, I am still free NOT to choose your dumb-ass!!!!"

But I am not bitter though...

Lord Louis
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