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Perfect! [Aug. 31st, 2005|04:14 pm]
Poly Bitchings
I have never seen something so perfect. Here I am bitchin & moanin about my Poly life, and lo and behold what do I find???

Here is a little intro and then on to my bitch of the day

Poly for 7 years in a FFM triad. Although we have been more of a V for a couple of years now. I am the "other" woman attached to an already married couple.

Our relationship has been extremely rocky as of late. I am not getting along with my g/f AT ALL. I can't even call her my friend right now. Even though my relationship with the husband is strong, even that has been suffering from it too.

We always argue about money & general housekeeping rules. I am at my wits end. Any suggestions on how to set up some our finances 3 ways besides by thirds? I work 2 jobs, go to school and make the least amount of money in the house but pay almost 70% of the mortgage along with my own expenses related to personal debt (car, credit cards, gym etc.). Literally every penny is accounted for in my budget but yet I am always being chastised for not contributing to extracirricular activites.

I have a low tolerance for messes, however I am the first person to leave for work and the last person to arrive home for the day. Am I being unreasonable for assuming that someone else is going to cook & clean by the time I roll in at 7pm? On the weekends I am always cooking & cleaning up, seems fair to me.

Someone please either validate my feelings or tell me to shut the hell up. I am just frustrated. Help!

[User Picture]From: 7rin
2005-09-01 12:59 pm (UTC)
Not sure how useful it'll be since it'll take input and compromise all round (which is what us hyper-evolved poly types're s'posed to be good at anyway <wry smile>), but have just trawled me bookmarks 'cause I was sure I had something somewhere about this, and bingo! Found it: Polyamory Finances.

There's other practical stuff on the site too, and I dug the link out of Polyamory-related books, links, and resources on tacit's site.

Hope you manage to find some resolution - and glad the comm. was useful. :)
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From: bitchin_moanin
2005-09-01 03:34 pm (UTC)
That is great! Thank you so much. Hopefully we can get things in order soon!


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